Saying that love, and marriage generally take a lot of work would be a huge understatement. It’s a well-known fact that if you keep neglecting your relationship and your partner, many problems will arise, which makes total sense.
That’s why, if you care about your special someone and you want your relationship to succeed and be better than ever, you need to try. We’re not saying that you constantly need to please your partner and bribe them with expensive gifts, etc., so that they would be in a good mood, no, it’s much simpler than that.
Most problems that you come across in your relationship can be resolved just be communicating with your special someone, and that’s why talking openly about anything is always your solution number one. But, sometimes, it takes a little bit more to make things better, and this article will help you with just that. We’ve prepared a list of 5 things that you can do to spice your relationship up, and trust us, improvement is guaranteed.
Number one is all about mindset.
Many people are of a mindset where they convince themselves that their partner is an open book. They think that they know absolutely everything, from what they like, what they’re into, to every single little detail. Well, things aren’t that simple, and if you plan on improving things in your bedroom, you need to realize that nothing isn’t that simple as it seems and that your partner isn’t that easy to read. Always keep in mind that they are somewhat of the mystery to you and that there are many things that you need to explore “on” them. Ask them about what they want, what are their fantasies that you haven’t yet heard. Do all of this, but just don’t make any assumptions. Convincing yourself that you know all about them already, will create more problems for you since you won’t be able to experience any new things in your relationship and as you probably know it yourself, that’s pretty bad.
List of Ideas
The second thing we’re going to be talking about is generating a list of ideas. If you’re someone who likes to think about some new stuff you want to try out, get into the habit of writing those things down and share it with your partner. Writing a list of new ideas is something very beneficial for your relationship, so try to get your partner to do the same thing.
These lists could address all kinds of things. Everything from wanting more kissing to some crazy roleplays. But, before any of this happens, spend some alone time thinking about what things you like, things that would make you feel good. Write all of them down and present them to your partner.
Push Your Comfort Zone
It’s a well-known fact that nothing good ever happens inside your comfort zone. Well, maybe we’re wrong, maybe some great thing does happen, but when it comes to sex, honestly, it just doesn’t. That’s why, if you’re going to make some “crazy” things happen in your bedroom, you need to forget that the comfort zone exists and just go berserk.
Most people get into the rut because they’re stuck with doing things, they’re comfortable with and they’re afraid to experiment, which is a huge mistake. The main reason why people want a little bit of excitement in the first place and have trouble doing it is that they keep on doing the same stuff over and over again, which was the problem all along. So, don’t be afraid to go all-in and try out a new pose, new location, it doesn’t matter, as long as it’s something new, something exciting, and something you’re not used to.
Everyone Has Different Taste
Another thing that you should keep in mind is that everyone has a different taste. So, this means that what’s spicy and exciting for one person, can be vanilla to the other, and that’s fine. For you, the definition of spicing things up might mean having sex in the park, in the car, etc., while for your partner spicing things up might mean getting into a different position, basically, there’s no right or wrong. Just make sure that you’re honest with yourself about what you’re looking for in your relationship. Think it through long and well about what you want and then talk with your partner or anyone else you’re going to involve in your sex life.
When it comes to libido, health, and sex in general, aphrodisiacs have been there for us for literally hundreds of years. Even though there isn’t a scientific explanation of whether they work, people have always used them when they needed some help in the bedroom. That’s why our last tip for you would be to try one them out. Since there are lots of aphrodisiacs out there, you might be having some trouble finding the perfect one for you. If that’s the case, we would recommend you “Spanish Fly“. It’s one of the most popular and used aphrodisiacs out there, so hey, why not give it a shot, right.