Harvey Kart

Debuting this fall, Pittsburgh Better Times is a new lifestyle publication and website serving the nearly one half-million individuals* in Pittsburgh and surrounding counties who are divorced, widowed, and separated. Backed by my 25-year experience as a niche publisher of titles including Western Pennsylvania Hospital News, Pittsburgh Boomers, Next Generation, and Western Pennsylvania Nursing News, this print and digital magazine will be driven by the voices of our writers and the audience we plan to serve.

With the loss of two great friends, Leo Rebholz and Karen Houston, I have seen their respective spouses, Kathy and Jerry, navigate through the grief process and find their new “normals.” Additionally, my wife and I are now helping our daughter, Kristen, as well as our two grandchildren, undergo the emotional upheaval of a divorce. We’re supporting them through this difficult time and helping them refocus and rebuild their lives.

Always being someone who tries to see the positive things in life, I wanted to create a vehicle for those who are in different stages of moving on with their lives and are discovering their new normal. With Pittsburgh Better Times, I hope to highlight and profile those individuals who are divorced, widowed, and separated in a positive way and inspire others as they continue on with their lives.

Harvey D. Kart
hdkart@aol.com
770-353-5847

*Source: http://homes.point2.com

You Can Do It Alone: A Personal Message from a Local Writer & Editor

By Kathleen Ganster

“I don’t know how you do it,” my next door neighbor said to me as I was unloading my three small children from my car.

“What are my options?” I laughed.

I became a single parent when my children were 1, 3, and 5. It wasn’t an easy transition, but one that was necessary for a happier and healthier family. As hard as it was to do it on my own, I knew it was better for all of us, most importantly, my children.

Since I was truly a single parent, I was lucky to have the strong support of my parents who lived nearby. Although I was doing it alone financially, they helped in so many other ways, including having my dad be a strong, male role model in my children’s lives.

Over the years, I often joked that I was the “token” single parent of our upper middle-class community, but of course, that wasn’t true – it just felt like it at times. Nonetheless, we forged ahead, out little troop of four. One day my son said, “Mommy, I’m glad we don’t have a dad because I think we are closer.”  I felt like it was true.

I was also lucky that as a journalist, I could work from home and thus avoid expensive childcare. We may have had far less material items than others in our neighborhood, but we were happy. I think my kids are more caring individuals and resourceful because they know how to work as a family team and what is really necessary to survive.

The hardest part of being a single parent was perhaps, the comments of others. When my sister complained that her husband was out of town and she had to take out the trash, I asked her who she thought took it out every week at my house. Another friend asked me who would want to date a woman with three little children. Fortunately, I did date and they were even nice men! And of course, there were the veiled comments about how children from single-parent homes don’t do as well as those from a two-parent home.

Two years ago, I married a wonderful man. I am lucky. But I am even luckier in the way my children have turned out. My daughter, now 20, is entering her senior year at Duquesne University where she has been on the Dean’s List almost every semester and has just won a national scholarship contest. My son, 18, will enter the Honors College also at Duquesne and received the Rotary Scholarship in our community. My youngest who just turned 16, is the happiest guy in the world and everyone loves him. No matter where we go, someone knows Cole.

My advice for single parents? You can do it alone. The hardest times will only make you closer to your children. Don’t listen to others rude comments, only words of support. Your kids will be great and you will survive. I know. I have been there.

Kathleen Ganster
Writer/Editor
Twitter: @kathleenganster
kganster@verizon.net.