I have seen dramatic transformations in my clients who have adopted the philosophy of “You are what you attract.” If you find that you continue to attract the same type of negative friends, unfulfilling relationships, drama, bad luck, negative energy, unrewarding jobs, bad health, poor physical image, etc, then I bet you are spending a lot of time telling yourself that you do. I have seen this over and over again.
If you want to be thin and look in the mirror and all you see if flab then you will continue to be flabby. If you want to attract a loving relationship and you keep reminding yourself that all the good ones are taken, they will be – by somebody else. If you feel as if the dark cloud of bad luck has taken permanent stake over your head then Murphy’s Law will continue to rain down on you.
This line of thinking becomes habit quickly. The good news is that it can be broken and quickly by replacing the negative head trash with positive affirmations. Break the cycle before it breaks you. How long can you afford not to?
Affirmations are not in the future tense such as “I will be thin.” They are in the present tense as in “I am thin!”
Replace Head Trash with Your Own Personal Affirmation List
1. Make a list of everything you want to happen in your life. ie: Find a loving relationship, get a new job, make new friends, stop being angry, react better in a crisis, etc. Be specific. Precede every statement with “I am” of “I have.” ie: I am in a job that allows me to grow my creative talents. I am in love with a man who loves and respects me.
2. Make a list of every negative thing you want to stop doing and next to it write down what positive thing you are doing when you are doing the opposite. ie: I want to stop yelling at my children – I am living in harmony with my children in an environment of trust and respect. I want to stop feeling alone and sad all the time – I have trusted relationships with people who share my values and I enjoy.
3. Combine the list from #1. with the positive statements from #2.
4. Type up your list in an easy to read format and read it twice a day. Place it where you will see it in the morning and in the evening. Keep the list in your desk for when you are feeling particularly stressed to remind yourself of your new vision before the old head trash comes flooding back. Keep it in your car and in your purse. You may get creative with your list and cut out pictures or sketch images or attach colors to go with each affirmation. The important thing is to read it as much as possible.
5. If there is a particular area of your life where you want to focus such as health, relationships, new career, then write a list of 10 affirmations for that specific area. ie: I am thin. I am eating healthy foods. I am exercising every day. I am spending time with other health conscious people. I am reading health conscious materials. etc.
I have watched people who regularly use positive affirmations go from being single to finding the love of their life, from overweight to healthy and active, from a dead end job to an open ended career, from debt to a financial plan, from fatigue to high energy.
On my web site there is a positive affirmation slide show – “Amazing Affirmations” – a presentation I created of affirming statements that can get you started. Go to www.startingovernow.com and click on “About Us” to find it. Many of my clients use this everyday to help them onto a new path. Create positive affirmations, read them everyday and watch what happens! Start now.
Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com/Gannon Group – a coaching, training and consulting firm that provides turnaround strategies for people and organizations. Mary Lee’s personal turnaround came as a stay-at-home mother, with four children under seven-years-old, who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where within a short time she worked out of that to the level of CEO. Her book “Starting Over – 25 Rules for When You’ve Bottomed Out” is available in bookstores or with online booksellers. For more free tips on starting over visit her web site at www.StartingOverNow.com or to sign up for her blog list of “365 Ways to Start Over” go to www.startingovernow.wordpress.com.