The pressures of dating can make it feel like a chore instead of something to embrace and enjoy. Often we get intimidated and we concentrate on what can go wrong instead of what can go right. Dating means putting yourself out there with all the insecurities and uncertainties that go along with it. So it’s no wonder some people would rather hide away than risk getting hurt. But it doesn’t have to be like that.
The key to successful dating is to just go with the flow. Lower your expectations of the date, or better still, don’t have any expectations at all. That way, you’ll be more relaxed and your date is going to see the real you instead of the person you’re pretending to be to impress him. In short, stop treating dates like dates and just have fun.
Here are four ways to do just that:
Know your dating style—the most important question to ask before a date is, “What do I want from it?” Some girls want to hook up with a guy just for a fun time and easy sex, some might want a casual relationship while others might want ‘the one.’ Whatever your objective, be honest and it will help you find someone with a similar agenda.
Change your attitude—dating isn’t something you have to do to meet ‘Mr. Right.’ Think of dating as a blank canvas that hasn’t been painted yet. You have the potential to turn it into whatever you envision.
Ditch the negativity with men—holding onto past negativity about previous relationships will impact your attitude about current and future dates. It also attracts that one kind of guy – the one who treats you badly. Instead, stop pre-judging and treat each date the way you’d want him to treat you. It helps to build self-confidence that will shine through and that is one of the attributes men lust over in a woman.
Go with the flow—you can’t control life and you can’t control people, but you can control your own happiness. Recognizing that things won’t always go as planned is a big step to enjoying a successful dating lifestyle. If you are happy with yourself and you know what you want, you will attract exactly that.
And if things don’t turn out the way you’d hoped, shake it off and carry on. Life has a funny way of putting us on the right path, even if you have to go to every house on the block to get there. As the old adage says, you really do have to kiss a lot of frogs before the handsome prince arrives, but as long as you believe he’s out there, you’ll find him.
Founder of the Naughty Empire and author of two award-winning travel guides, “Naughty Girl’s Guide to Los Angeles” and “Naughty Girl’s Guide to Las Vegas,” Sienna Sinclaire has spent over ten years spent in the adult industry as a burlesque dancer and sex coach. Sinclaire has devoted her time as a freelance writer on the topic of all things naughty and has developed the first and only “Naughty Tours of Los Angeles” and hosts weekly naughty events in Los Angeles.